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Making Your 'Shoulds' Non-Negotiable

April 22, 2024 / by Broadminded
In our lives, we all have things we think we should do. Whether it's improving our health, advancing our career, or fostering better relationships, these "shoulds" hover in the back of our minds, often unattended. Tony Robbins, a renowned life coach, introduces a powerful twist to this narrative: transforming these "shoulds" into "musts." But what does this really mean, and how can it change the way we approach our goals and dreams?

The Power of "Must"

When we label something as a “should,” it carries a hint of obligation and procrastination—it’s something we’ll eventually get to. However, when something becomes a “must,” it’s no longer a choice but a necessity. This shift from a passive wish to an active commitment is where true change begins. Tony Robbins emphasises, “We don’t get what we want. We get what we have to have.” This statement underscores the essence of turning our aspirations into non-negotiable parts of our lives.

Why Turn "Should" Into "Must"?

Imagine a life where you're not just dreaming of what you want but actually living it. The difference lies in our determination to see our "shoulds" as "musts." Here’s why:
Declaring something as a must removes ambiguity and compels us to focus our efforts.
Musts come with increased urgency and drive, pushing us past hurdles and procrastination.
Musts lead to action, and action leads to results. By reclassifying our goals, we're more likely to achieve them.

Making FOMO Work for You

The fear of missing out (FOMO) isn't just for social events or the latest tech gadget. It can be a motivational tool. What if you feared missing out on a fulfilled, purpose-driven life? By viewing our personal growth and achievements as must-haves, we harness the emotional energy of FOMO to fuel our pursuits.
1) Identify Your Shoulds: Write down all the things you feel you should be doing but aren’t. These can range from personal health goals to professional aspirations.
2) Find Your Why: For each "should," ask yourself why it’s important to turn it into a "must." What will you lose if you don’t? What will you gain if you do?
3) Commit Publicly: One way to solidify a must is to commit to it publicly. Whether it's telling a friend or posting on social media, making a public commitment can significantly boost your accountability.

Try the "Should Into Must" Exercise

To truly integrate this concept into your life, we invite you to try the “Should Into Must” exercise available on our website. This interactive tool will guide you through the steps to transform your shoulds into musts, providing you with a structured way to ignite change and harness your full potential.

Turning "should" into "must" is more than a motivational strategy; it's a transformative process that shifts how we perceive and interact with our goals. By making our desires non-negotiable, we open the doors to a life filled with achievement and satisfaction.
Start your journey today by exploring how to make your aspirations indispensable. Remember, the life you want isn’t just a series of unfulfilled dreams—it's a series of musts waiting to be realised.
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Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Comprehensive Insight with a Focus on Integrated Treatment Approaches

October 22, 2023 / by Broad-minded

Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

As the seasons change, many adjust seamlessly to the shifting weather patterns and varying lengths of days. However, for some, these transitions are far from effortless. Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, is a psychological condition that arises due to seasonal changes. It is a type of depression that emerges at particular times of the year, typically during the shorter daylight periods of autumn and winter. Summer-onset SAD, which affects individuals in the spring and summer, is a lesser-known but equally impactful variant. This condition is not merely a fleeting case of “winter blues” or “summer slump” but a clinically recognised disorder with profound effects on daily functioning.

SAD’s Impact in Ireland

Ireland’s unique geographical location and maritime climate provide it with a distinct seasonal light pattern. The country’s northern latitude leads to significant variations in daylight. During winter, days can be extremely short, with only about seven hours of daylight in some regions. Conversely, summer offers extended daylight hours, which can be challenging for those with summer-onset SAD.
Research suggests that regions with pronounced seasonal light changes, such as Northern European countries – including Ireland – experience a heightened prevalence of SAD. Although the Irish climate is mild, it often has overcast days and frequent rainfall, leading to reduced sunlight exposure, a known trigger for SAD symptoms.
Moreover, the cultural and social landscape in Ireland can amplify the effects of SAD. Festive winter months, characterised by family gatherings and celebrations, might exacerbate feelings of isolation in those affected by SAD, as they may find it challenging to participate with the same enthusiasm.

The Integrated Treatment Approach: Psychologists and Nutritionists Collaborating

Addressing SAD holistically requires an interdisciplinary approach. Specifically, the collaboration between psychologists and nutritionists offers a comprehensive strategy:
* Comprehensive Assessment: A joint examination can provide a detailed overview of a client’s mental and physical health, forming a solid foundation for intervention planning.

* Integrative Intervention Plans: After assessment, a joint action plan can be devised. While psychologists employ techniques to address negative thought patterns, nutritionists recommend dietary adjustments to support mood regulation.

* Regular Monitoring and Feedback: This ensures real-time adaptation of strategies and interventions, based on the client’s progress.

* Educational Workshops and Group Sessions: These sessions delve into the science behind SAD, the link between nutrition and mental health, and practical techniques for managing symptoms.

* Reinforcing Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Emphasising a balanced lifestyle that melds mental wellness strategies with a nutritious diet is pivotal for holistic well-being.

* Client Education: Informing clients about SAD and its connection to nutrition equips them to manage their condition proactively.

* Collaboration with Other Healthcare Professionals: A well-rounded care approach can be achieved by integrating insights from Nutritional Therapists, GPs, Psychiatrists, and other relevant professionals.
Broad-minded, as a dedicated mental health provider, emphasises the importance of a comprehensive approach to mental wellness. In this spirit, Broad-minded collaborates with Marcela Ferreira, an esteemed Holistic Nutritional Therapist. Marcela’s expertise in nutrition complements the therapeutic strategies employed by our distinguished psychologist, Ligia Hamada.
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